Wedding Guest Etiquette

May 30, 2018  |     |   0 Comment

Wedding season is here! If you are invited to a wedding, your main role as a wedding guest is to attend the celebration with an attitude of consideration and respect for your hosts and their very special day.  Here are 5 tips to help you demonstrate this:

1. RSVP  Immediately

RSVP is French for “please respond” (répondez s’il vous plaît). Your most important obligation as a guest at a wedding is to respond to the invitation immediately, especially if you are unable to attend. At the very least, it allows your hosts enough time to give an accurate count to the caterer. There is usually a card to return with your reply.

2. Respect your Invitation

The invitation will be addressed to the people invited. If you may bring a guest, your invitation will read “Your Name and Guest.” If it does not, it is not your place to ask your hosts if you can bring a date or your children. If your children are invited, they will either receive their own personal invitations or their names will be listed under yours on the envelope. Do not add their names to a reply card or show up with them anyway!

3. Send a Gift

If you are invited to the ceremony and/or reception, you should send a gift, whether you are attending or not. Generally, gifts are sent ahead in advance of the wedding. In some localities, gifts are brought to the reception and placed on a special table. If you hear from family that the couple would prefer a charitable donation, respect their wishes. Contrary to the popular belief that you have a year to send a gift, it really should be sent right away or within three months of the wedding.

4.  Don’t Post Photos of the Wedding on Social Media Without Permission

You have no reason to post pictures on social media of a bride/groom before they have had the opportunity to post their own pictures.  A couple will want to choose their best pictures to share with others, especially if on social media.  Do not post any pictures or videos without the  hosts approval.

5. Be on your Best Behaviour

Be on time.  Wear appropriate clothing.  Be respectful during the marriage ceremony.  Pay your respects to the hosts, the wedding party and other guests at the reception.

By following these 5 wedding guest etiquette tips, you will ensure that you attend the celebration with an attitude of consideration and respect to your hosts and their very special day.

After 14 years working as a lawyer and law firm manager, Erin Crotty was ready for a change. Trained through the Protocol School of Washington, the Conselle Institute of Image Management, and Pro-Active Business Leadership, Erin is now a certified business etiquette, protocol and image management expert who has turned her passion into a thriving business – BloomStra Consulting, based in Ottawa, ON.

Erin helps her clients harness the power of etiquette and image management to build successful relationships in business and reach their professional goals. Her clients learn how to increase their confidence and credibility, distinguish themselves in any business or social situation and, ultimately, ‘Outclass the Competition’.

Are you ready to bloom?  Learn more at or contact Erin at or 613–614-4540.

You must be logged in to post a comment.

Related Posts