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Valentine’s Day: Alternative Suggestions for this day of Love

February 13, 2016  |     |   0 Comment

"Be My Valentine" message on heart shape blackboard with pink ri


“How do you spell ‘love’?” – Piglet

“You don’t spell it…you feel it.” – Pooh”

― A.A. Milne


When I was a child, there was great anticipation of the Valentine’s Day card exchange that would take place at school. I looked forward to the shopping trip with my Mom and Sister for our cards and carefully choosing just the right ones. I made sure to give a Valentine’s card to everyone in my class so nobody was left out. I also looked forward to receiving cards from my classmates – it made me feel acknowledged and valued.

Over the years, Valentine’s Day has lost its lustre.  Not because I’m down on love. Quite the opposite! I do appreciate that it can be day to remind us about importance of love in our lives and demonstrating our love to those we care about.  However, I believe that each and every day should be one of giving and receiving love.  It should not kept for a special occasion.  Every day, by our very presence, we should make a positive difference in the lives of another person based on how we treat them and make them feel.  And that’s how I try to live my life.

That said, doing something extra special for those you care about on Valentine’s Day will never go unappreciated.  Here are some alternative suggestions that go beyond the traditional approach to this day of love that starts with the most important person….You!

1. Love from the Inside, Out.

Skip putting others before yourself. In order to truly love another person, you first have to love the most important person in your life – yourself.  Where do you rank on your priority list?  Do you take time to celebrate the awesomeness that is You? On Valentine’s Day, do something special for yourself; something you might otherwise not take the time to do.

2. Love in Bloom.

Skip the roses.  Want to send flowers to that special person to let them know you’re thinking about them? It could be the love of your life, a parent, or a friend.  Whomever it is, think about their taste and what they would want to receive. Then customize the flower arrangement and include a note letting them know why they are important in your life.

3. Feed Your Passion.

Skip eating out.  The restaurant world is not going to like me much, but eating out on Valentine’s Day is chaotic and frankly, unromantic.  Stay home.  Make a special meal at home with your loved one(s).  Share a special bottle of wine. Invite your girlfriends over, or any of your single friends. Mix and mingle.  Have a wine-and-cheese party.  Open your heart and home, and feed your’s and your guests passions!  One year, I invited a number of my friends over for a luscious pasta meal.  The ravioli had been specially made for Valentine’s Day – fresh pink, heart-shaped pasta.  Delicious!

4. Give a Gift from the Heart.

Skip breaking the bank with big, flashy gifts. Personalize a gift for your loved one(s).  Consider creating a handmade card with a personalized message, creating a customized photo book sharing pictures capturing favourite moments together, or compiling a book of love poems or quotes that reflect your relationship.  The best gifts always come from the heart.

Happy Valentine’s Day!  May today, and every day be one filled with love, joy and passion.

Erin Crotty, Founder & Director, BloomStra Consulting

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